Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy by David Richo (Shambhala, 2010)
Trust is defined as “a firm and hopeful reliance on the fidelity, integrity, or in the ability of a person or thing.” It is not dependency but rather an inner assurance, a confidence that gives us a sense of security, a reliance on reliability. Trust happens in the present and connects past experience with future possibility. Trust can be damaged at anytime. The foundation of trust is “I trust myself with whatever you do.”
Being a fan of David Richo’s work, I jumped to read his new book. I finished reading Trust some time ago, however, it’s taken me a while to come to terms about writing my thoughts on this broad and deep book. I don’t recall reading a book solely devoted to trust before.
The way we trust openly reflects our inner self and from which we learn and grow. Our declaration of our history of trust is essential in understanding ourselves and growing in intimacy with those we love. Learned through our experience we cannot always trust ourselves, our neurotic ego shield is constantly a blink away.
Richo’s new book is about how to trust and how to be trustworthy. He explains four directions our trust can take:
1. toward others
2. toward ourselves
3. toward reality
4. toward a higher power or spiritual path
He explores trust groups by helping us understand the difference between the way a child trusts and the way adults trust. As we grow in our understanding of trust, we become more adept as setting boundaries so that we are not taken advantage of.
By explaining intelligent distrust, we grow in our capacity to trust. By studying our shadow, we gradually thin the effects of youthful trust factors which influence our neurotic reactions and hinder the present.
My previous Richo reading has helped me in a large way to understand my adult self. Daring to Trust helps you consider, understand and forgive injustices you have created–those that have caused you harm and mistakes you have made towards others. Coming to an understanding with trust worthiness enables you to view your loves ones, family, partner, pals, and coworkers in a growing, sharing way basically centered around genuine love and care. I cannot express enough to David what seriously reading this book has meant to me. This is a book to share with all, especially those who have been dealt hurtful blows by others. For those readers who feel comfortable with others, reading Daring to Trust helps you see why you feel more secure.
It would give me great pleasure for Lemuria to host David in Jackson and to make our community more aware of his excellent work. I have no hesitation in recommending his books to any of Lemuria’s readers. His efforts will have effects if you take his insight to heart and practice awareness in your daily activities.
Our community of Jackson could use his influence and insightful awareness.
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